The real or imaginative you?

19/08/21 :-
Did you fall in love with the real them or the imaginative them?
你愛上的是真實的他/她們還是你幻想中的他/她們？

The imaginative them does not mean they do not exist, not like that imaginary friend you have.
It means the kind of person (usually good) you imagined they are.
In real life, they are (actually not as good) just not what you have imagined.

幻想中的他/她們並不是指他/她們不存在，不是你那個只活在你幻想中的朋友。
是指你幻想著他/她們是某一種人 (通常都是好的)。
但現實生活中，他/她們並不是如你想像中一樣 (往往都是沒那麼好)。

Someone asked this question recently.
I think this is something worth pondering over.

最近有人問了這個問題。
我覺得還蠻值得深思的。

This happened to alot of people around me.
My family and close friends.

這其實在我身邊發生過 - 我的家人與朋友都曾經歷。

I believe there are times you may have said this to someone too.
"He/she is not as good as you think they are."
As an outsider, there are things we can truly see clearer than the person involved.
Yes, on one hand, we can say they are blinded by love.

想必你或許曾經對其他人說過。
“他/她並不是你想像中那麼好。”
身為局外人，我們或許看得比當局者清楚。
是的，或許一方面，我們可以說他/她們被愛迷惑。

Yet, when we are the person in the picture, we think differently.
Probably, you have said this to others who tried to warn you.
"There are things you do not know about him/her."

但反過來，當我們變成了當局者，我們的思維就不一樣了。
也許，你也曾經對想要警惕你的人這樣說過。
“有些關於他/她們的事你不了解。”

Well, this is an endless topic and there certainly isn't a right or wrong answer.
However, no matter how many what ifs you may have, some past can only be in the past.
You may be thinking, if I have done this instead of that, the result will not be the same.
 Perhaps, it won't or perhaps, the same result will still happen just a little later.

話說到底，這是個永遠沒有對與錯的話題。
但是，無論你心中有多少 “或許”，有些曾經就只可以留在過去。
你可能想著，或許我不那樣做而這樣做的話，結果就不一樣了。
也許，會不一樣，又也許同樣的結果還是會發生，只不過是延遲發生。