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25/08/13 :- Sometimes, when faced with a similar situation, it’s the angle you look at it that determines if you can solve the issue. 有时候，面对着相同的状况，看待事情的角度不同就能决定你是否能解决问题。 Most of you probably have heard, "Doing the same things with the same method would only give you the same results over and over again. To get a different result, you need to try a different way." In many areas of life, we are resistant to changes. However, we failed to see that sometimes, all it takes is a tiny weeny change to make things better. By staying in the circle, you can't see how big it is. You probably need to step out to see the real size in order to conquer it. If you are currently stuck in a situation for the longest time, why not try doing it in another way? Seek assistance from others if you should. We are not Superheros and if you have watched Spider-man before, there is one scene where he used the help given by those construction workers who helped make a sw...

"That Girl In Pinafore" - 《我的朋友，我的同学，我爱过的一切》     I love simple love stories like this, it simulates my mind in writing my own. Many would make comparison between this Singapore's teenage love story & Taiwan famous writer, "You Are The Apple Of My Eye" - 《那些年，我们一起追过的女孩》。 Since both stories evolve around secondary school days, it's inevitable that comparison are made. If you ask me, I love both movies.   Both have their own strong points. For the Taiwan's movie, it was directed by the author, 九把刀 himself. His books never failed to touch my heart. So by directing the movie himself, he is able to bring out the best in the storyline. As for Singapore's "That Girl In Pinafore", it is closer to heart as the places where scenes were captured and the songs used in the movie are more than just familiar for those born in the 1980s like me. Those places and songs held great memories for us. One similarity for both movies is t...

29/07/13 :- Charity and doing good needs no reason, spread your love! 做慈善行好事无需理由，将爱心传递！ This is the second time I'm shaving my hair for "Hair For Hope". I have friends asking me, "Why do you choose to do that?" or "Why Cancer Foundation? Was it because of your dad?" Do we really need a reason why we want to do charity? To me, I don't see the need to. I donate or help people who I feel worth my time or money. My sisters and I grow up in a big extended family, we love to share and do things for people around us. More than once, my sister told me whenever she changed to a new work environment, her colleagues would doubt her sincerity. She loves to give little stuff to colleagues, like making brownies for all her colleagues on V-day, giving thank you cards to all her colleagues after a school event. Same for me, the first year I entered SDC, I pack little goodies bags for Halloween and went to office early to paste it under the chairs of ...

17th - 22nd Jul 2013 An unplanned solo trip to Bangkok! (The trip to Bangkok was planned, going there alone was due to unforeseen circumstances.)   Together with my love, I set off for the Country of SMILES! I checked into All Season Bangkok Siam Hotel which was recommended by my friend. Quite a nice hotel, clean & accessible to BTS & shopping district. Nice & cheap food are among the few things I like about Bangkok. Went to afew places, Dusit Zoo, Damnoen Saduak Floating Market, Chatuchak, etc.   Overall, it was a nice trip. As my flight was delayed and yet I reached there much earlier, I had plenty of time at the airport. So, I settled down at Starbucks and allowed my thoughts to flow... Don't ask me why, somehow when I held my pen to write my thoughts, only Chinese words came out. Yes, though Qiqi always said I'm a Cheena man, I always scribble my thoughts in English... This time, my hand & mind just took over everything.   ...

  03/07/13 :- Always have a backup plan! 不怕一万，只怕万一，凡事都要做好准备！   I always deemed myself as a person with plans. My dad definitely was, he never leave anything to chance. If he has and know how to use a computer, he'd backup his backup disk.   Perhaps, I was too confident that all my Plan A would work; like how they did since the day I've learnt to set plans on my own.   Luck has been on my side for the past 30years, I never have to think about what if Plan A failed. Never do I need to worry about taking up Plan B, C, D, etc which I never have planned for in the 1st place.   They always say, "Failing to plan is planning to fail!" However, they missed out the 2nd part of the advice, "Always have a backup plan because Plan A can fail!"   All of a sudden, I felt lost as I was caught unprepared when Plan A failed.   Though I seemed like a strong and determined person to a few. However, even Superhero will feel tir...

19/05/13 :- Don't burn the bridge. 千万不要过河拆桥。 Many people asked, "Why do you still bother when you are already leaving?" My answer to them, "I love my job, my colleagues and my workplace." Their next question, "Why do you want to leave then?" I said, "I have my personal reasons and I have my dreams to fulfil." I know of people who feel they have "suffered" at their previous workplaces. When they are serving their notices, they totally switch off, gave shitty work and showed all patterns. Even if we were really treated badly, most of us would bound to have gain something while we were at the workplace. Like the friendship among the colleagues, the staff benefits which have maybe once allowed you to settle your family 's difficulties or at the least, the salary even if not much, has prevent you from going hungry. I am lucky, maybe there are people who don't like me whom I do not know and don't need to know b...

  23/04/13 :-   You are not me... You would never understand... 你不是我。。。 你永远不会了解。。。   Recently, I've seen a few stories here and there which got me thinking... The one with the biggest impact is the autistic girl name Carly.   A few parts of the videos got me... Carly said the reason why she bangs her head was because she takes in more sound/noise than a normal person and the only way to drown them was to bang her head. And then later in the video, her dad said Carly once typed to him she wishes for him to be in her body one day to know how it feels to be her.   We, the so-called normal people have times when we do certain things and people can't seem to agree on how we deal with it. Why? Because no same person feels and behave the same way even in the most similar situation.   So, tell me, who are you to judge if we should or should not do or say the things we want to? The pain one goes through, the other would never unde...

03/04/13 :- 地球给了我们很多，为她做点小事来回馈她，应该不难吧？ Mother Earth has given us so much, do a little act to repay her shouldn't be too difficult a task right? Many times, we do things to our convenience. I would not say I'm not guilty of that. However, as much as we can, we should always make an effort to do abit more in saving Gaia! =D It would be easy to just dump a can drink or packet drink into the general waste bin. You can help by dumping them into respective can & paper recycling bin. It doesn't stop just there, if you can go abit more by flattening the can or carton, you would have help so much more in this Green Project! A little thoughtfulness goes a long way in making our Mother Earth a better place to live in!

   24/03/13 :- Whenever I look up at the sky, I know you would always be there! 每当抬头望着星空，我知道你一直都在！ If you have not known, she is the woman I love most in my life! The best Grandma I can ever have! Should there be an after life, I would want to be her Grandson once more... When I succeed in certain areas of life, I look up at the sky knowing she would be proud of me... When I failed sometimes, I look up at the sky knowing she would be there to encourage me... When I am feeling down, I look up at the sky knowing she would be there to cheer me up... When I have good news to share, I look up at the sky knowing she is there to listen... When I start missing her, I look up at the sky knowing she is looking at me too... 阿嬷你今嘛在叨位 阮在叫你你甘有听到 阮的认真甲阮的成功你甘有看到 阮在叫你你知影没 阿嬷你 今嘛过的好么 甘有人块甲你照顾 希望后世人阮搁会冻来乎你疼 作你永远的孙仔

24/03/13 :- Things might see clearer when you get out of the picture... 从局外看事情或许会比较清楚。。。 I do not deny I'm easily frustrated by certain things or people. My temper is not good but I try my best to hold it. As I grow slightly more mature watching the years go by, whenever I feel the anger/heat is coming, I would tell myself to step out of this whole situation to look at things. If I can successfully do just that, many times, I can cool down by myself. I would be able to make a better judgement and avoid disputes/arguments in that case. I hate to give explanations, so if in the 1st place, I avoid disputes/arguments, I do not need to be forced to explain anything. Though most of the times, I still choose not to explain. As much as I hate to give explanations, I hate to be misunderstood...

07/03/13 :- Good guys finish last, but stay with you till your last day! 好的男生或许是女生最后的选择，但他们会陪你到生命的最后一天！ More than once, different people at different stages of my life tells me this, "Ivan, girls don't like good guys. You need to learn to be bad!" 在生命里的不同阶段里，不仅一次都会有人这样对我说，“Ivan, 女生不喜欢乖乖男。男人不坏，女人不爱。你要学怎么做坏男孩。” I have never buy that crap and never will. Even if most girls really like bad guys, that is none of my business. Reason being, they won't be the type of girls I like either. 我从不相信这歪理，永远都不会。 就算大多数的女生都喜欢坏男孩，这也不管我的事。 因为，她们就不会是我喜欢的那些女生。 The way I was brought up is to treat little girls, young ladies, mature women NICE! Real men behave this way. That is the belief I live by and will for the rest of my life. 我们家的教育方式就是要对小女孩，年轻女生与成熟的女人好！ 真正的男子汉都该如此。 这就是我相信的真理，这辈子都是。 Even if I would never meet the right girl who knows how to appreciate and treasure me, I would not change the way I am. 就算一辈子都遇不到那个懂得欣赏与珍惜我的女生，我也不会因此而改变。 My dad only studied till...

05/03/13 :- Do not lie the obvious! I may not have IQ of the smartest person on earth, I am definitely smarter than you in many ways! 别睁着眼说瞎话！ 我的智商虽然没有相等于世上最聪明的人，但我在很多方面绝对比你聪明得多！ Usually when a person lies, they leave behind traces for others. If you listen, read between the words and analyse what they said more carefully, you would spot these loopholes. It's definitely true when they said, "You need another 1,000 lies to cover the 1st lie." That's when liars keep lying just to cover up their previous lies. Why would you want to lead such a miserable life? By having to keep lying and even keep up with it and in time to come, you wouldn't be able to distinguish between the truth and lie you said. It is not others who you have lied to, you have merely wasted your whole life by living in your world of lies.

  04/03/13 :-   If you won't accept a one sided note, why would you allow yourself to take in a one sided story? 如果你不会接受单面钞，哪你又怎么容许自己接受单方面说的故事？   I love watching Justice Bao's shows. Why? Simply because he's a man of justice. It didn't matter to him if the criminal is the Emperor himself, someone of Royal Blood or a kin of his. He treats them equally, giving them the punishment they deserved and returning justice to the innocent.   Not everyone of us can be Justice Bao in today society. However, we can at least do our best in giving both parties a chance to speak up for themselves when things go wrong and you are asked to be the mediator. Or when you heard stories from one party on a particular matter, DO NOT spread what you heard before you are 100% sure that the information you have gathered is absolutely true.   Words don't cost a cent. However, they weigh a ton on the person who might be affected by those words. Words can pi...

03/03/2013 :- I usually do not care how others think of me and that's where I got my confidence from! 通常我都不太在乎别人对我的想法，这就是我自信的来源！ When I was very young, I try to impress others. Anyone and everyone around me, I try very hard. I try to behave how others feel I should, but I was never happy. I change according to the way people think/feel/say is correct. I've forgotten when I start telling myself, I live only for myself. I am in charge of my own happiness and so why must I lead the life others feel I should? Slowly, I brain-washed myself into doing things I like. There are good and bad in doing so. The good side was I slowly gain more confidence throughout the years. My stubbornness grew as well and that is the negative effect. However, I have never regret talking myself into making that change. Now, most of the times, I know exactly what I want and even when others think it's a bad idea, I hold onto my own beliefs. Intentionally or accidentally, they mention...

21/02/13 :- The sunshine in my heart keeps me smiling! 心中的阳光就是让我一直微笑的理由！ There is double meaning to the sunshine I kept in my heart. I love the sun and I associate happy thoughts, things and people to sunshine. Though it's not easy, I try my best to only contain happy stuff in my heart. That is what keeps me smiling. Another reason is I love sunshine type of girl and for now, someone in particular. Even though we may not get to see each other as much as I like to, there is always so much to talk about whenever we meet up. I still get the butterflies fluttering in my stomach kind of feeling before our every meet up and my heart still races whenever I am with her. She has rejected my love, not once nor twice but thrice. I know not if I should or would I ever confess a fourth time. So, for now, the best place to keep my feelings for her is my heart. And by doing so, it keeps me smiling! \(^_^)/

17/02/13 :- One should never be afraid to make the 1st step. . . 我们不该害怕踏出那第一步。。。 There's the saying of the 1st step is the hardest. But there is also another saying, "A thousand miles journey starts with the 1st step." If we are always afraid to make that 1st step, we would never ever reach the destination we desired. Yes, it may not be easy. However, as time goes by, things would just settle on its own. The stuff you were afraid of in the 1st place may never happen or they would just be resolved on its own.

14/02/13 :- Blood is thicker than water! 血浓于水！ I'm not sure about others, but my extended (both paternal & maternal) family plays an important part in my life. Without them, I would not be the Ivan I am now. Some of the decisions I made in life, they might not agree but they would never fail to stand by me when things go wrong. Family always come 1st. That's why I despise people who put lovers/friends/work/hobbies, etc before their family. I also tend to look out for ladies who has great relationship with their family. If family was never your top priority, don't expect them to help you when you are dumped by your lovers, betrayed by your friends or when you got sacked from your job! What goes around comes around, start treating your family well if you've not been doing so. Don't come to regret only when it's too late!

07/02/13 :- Sometimes, some feelings are better kept in the heart unsaid... 有时候，某些情感还是藏在心里不说比较好。。。 Have you ever met someone, slowly fallen for her but never said the words you should? There are a lot of reasons why you didn't say those words. But a few years down the road, you would come to realize, maybe it wasn't that bad to keep them in your heart. =) It may actually be the best choice you have ever made for the both of you.

06/02/13 :- Like Father Like Son - There would always be similar traits no matter how you try to deny. 有其父必有其子 - 总有你无论如何都无法否认的共同点。 He contributed in bringing you to this world. You would always have his genes in you. Be it looks, character, personalities, somehow you would have something in common somehow. It could be good or bad and you absolutely have no control over it. Like Dad, I'm as stubborn as can be and has a foul temper towards my nuclear family. I love to speed and has just gotten my 1st summon. Dad had countless. (I don't want to break his record for that.) We are definitely MCP. (Male chauvinist person) However, we only love one woman deeply at one time and we tried our best to give her all we can. Do not be bother by what others say in front of you or behind your backs, we know ourselves best. As long as our conscience is clear, we have no fears. However, given our stubbornness, we don't give up that easily even when it is clearly a lost case. ...

04/02/13 :- Never believe everything others tell you, try it out yourself! 别人说的话，别照单全收，自己试试看！ In life, people tell you a lot of things. Most often than not, they added, "It's true!", "Trust me!", "I'm not lying to you!". I do not deny the stubbornness in me. When someone tells me a certain movie suxs, I'll still go ahead and watch it on my own. When people said a particular makan place sells horrible food, I would try out the food and have my own verdict. These are the not so serious stuff. Have you ever stop pursuing your dreams just because others tell you that you won't be able to make it? And what do you do? You give up trying all together or keep going to achieve what you were make for to prove them wrong? I hope you choose the latter. What the others said are what/how they think/feel, it does not and should not represent yours. We are all unique individuals, we should be able to have a mind of our own to think and feel...