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17/10/21 :- If it is a number game, would you hang on till the end? 若只是個數字遊戲，你會堅持到最後嗎? What if I tell you some of the things in life that you wanted are nothing but number games? If you can see the whole picture, would you be able to emerge as the winner in life? I often get a lot of light bulb moments when I chant. This was another night. This is not a secret or magic. We merely lack the ability to see the whole picture. Thus we do not have the determination and gave up before we reach the end. I think back of my own past. How many times or things did I give up because I did not hang in till the end? I gave up simply too easily. Or maybe, those were not the things I really wanted (that badly)? We set targets on the things we want. Halfway through the process, we felt tired, rejected, hopeless. We could not find the will to carry on. We tell ourselves, this is not working out. Let us just give up and go after something else. If I know, after 99 times: - of approaching a customer for a ...

19/08/21 :- Did you fall in love with the real them or the imaginative them? 你愛上的是真實的他/她們還是你幻想中的他/她們？ The imaginative them does not mean they do not exist, not like that imaginary friend you have. It means the kind of person (usually good) you imagined they are. In real life, they are (actually not as good) just not what you have imagined. 幻想中的他/她們並不是指他/她們不存在，不是你那個只活在你幻想中的朋友。 是指你幻想著他/她們是某一種人 (通常都是好的)。 但現實生活中，他/她們並不是如你想像中一樣 (往往都是沒那麼好)。 Someone asked this question recently. I think this is something worth pondering over. 最近有人問了這個問題。 我覺得還蠻值得深思的。 This happened to alot of people around me. My family and close friends. 這其實在我身邊發生過 - 我的家人與朋友都曾經歷。 I believe there are times you may have said this to someone too. "He/she is not as good as you think they are." As an outsider, there are things we can truly see clearer than the person involved. Yes, on one hand, we can say they are blinded by love. 想必你或許曾經對其他人說過。 “他/她並不是你想像中那麼好。” 身為局外人，我們或許看得比當局者清楚。 是的，或許一方面，我們可以說他/她們被愛迷惑。 Yet, when we are...

Picture Credit : Dearest Sister, Shannon 圖片歸功於 : 親愛的妹妹，慧瑜 FB Page -> https://bit.ly/3889EZH <- 面子書 06/12/19 -  Stay Firm, Trust Your Intentions, Be Committed, Never Give Up! 保持堅定，相信自己的意圖， 做出承諾，永不放棄！ It has been a long time, I am tired. Physically, mentally and mostly emotionally. I an not a rational person, I act upon emotions. Ended up with injuries and bruises all over. Though I know I have to brush up on my communication, it takes time for improvement to take place. Feedback I've received and as the results showed, "Ivan, you are always/easily misunderstood." Yes, it gets frustrating and eventually hurting when others not only do not get what you meant and went to the other extreme. I shared my business, my products and the course I've attended. I shared my business to prep others for their Plan B and the very bad job market that's coming up. I shared my products hoping to improve and maintain people's health. I shared the c...

21/05/19 :- In a world where you can be anything, BE KIND! 在一個你甚麼都可以成為的世界裡，選擇善良！ Guys may have strong ego, but we have feelings too. Not all guys are wolves, who are only after your bodies. When we give you our hearts, please treat them with care. You may not want to be the owners, but do not go around breaking them. Many have came to show their care and concern, I'm truly grateful and appreciate your kind words. I am sorry, I couldn't share much on the details. I can only say, I am not ok, but don't worry, I would be fine as time goes by. Whatever that has happened, was just a case of a silly guy misinterpreting all the wrong signals sent. Falling in too fast and too deep. The girl was playing with fire and when she realized the fire was near, the most logical thing to do was to let go and not get her fingers burnt. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, except the guy is left to pick up the broken pieces of his fragile heart which he has given out too so...

25/08/18 :- When you pray for others, you find no excuse to skip! 當你為了他人 唱題 ，你沒有藉口不施行！ Was having a dialogue with a young lady recently. In terms of age, she's 12 years my junior. However, when we talk about being a Soka member, she has definitely more than 12 years of Buddha's wisdom, courage and compassion as compared to me. We had an interesting dialogue. She mentioned that she was grateful that throughout her growing up years, other than having to chant for good results and passing all her exams  smoothly,  she has not encountered personal issues which required her to chant to resolve them. It is definitely a good thing. She shared that she believes you do not need to wait for things to happen before you start chanting, you can always accumulate blessings as you chant daily. These accumulated blessings may just help you in future when you needed them most. Throughout the years of chanting, she has also been chanting for her friends to come ...

08/04/18 :- 有捨才有得。 Give before you take. 這句話是如此的簡單但如此地難以做到。 最近在身邊發生了不少事情，也遇到了不少人，讓我有所感觸。 有一部分的人在某種場合，考量某個決定，對待某些人時，腦海第一件事就是問，“這對我有甚麼好處？” 為甚麼會是捨得而不是得捨就是因為在我們能夠割捨後才有可能得到。 本身帶有點 “多管閒事” 的自己總是學不會對別人的求助說不。 在一年多前接觸了這個從台灣來的遊戲卡後，開始找身邊的朋友來個一對一的交流。 續之前完成的 #project1983eagleivan 之後，今年 2018 也給了自己一個新的挑戰就是要再次與83個人玩這副遊戲卡。 因為之前3個月忙著工作與其它瑣碎的事，進展的幅度不大，所以至今只玩了4 場。 當我開始想要邀約朋友一起玩這遊戲卡時，遇到的問題就是，“你為甚麼要找我玩？有甚麼目的/理由？” 我相信施比受更有福，之前友人第一次跟我玩了之後，我獲益良多，所以想讓更多人從中受益。 每一個人從這遊戲得到的收穫都不一樣，我也沒有辦法很詳細地讓你知道又或者保證你一定會得到些什麼。 而遇到那些堅信我一定是想從他們身上獲益的朋友，我唯一的理由或許也只是希望從你們的故事裡取得靈感。 當我有時間能夠報名上小寒老師的專業歌詞班的課時，我能夠從回憶資料庫裡拿出你們的故事當作題材，希望寫出一些感人的歌。。。 你願意與我玩一場遊戲牌嗎？ =) This is such a simple statement yet so hard to achieve. I had several encounters and also met some people recently which gave me this thought. There are people where in certain occasions, making certain decisions or when dealing with certain people, the first thing which comes to mind is, "How is this going to benefit me?" I believe, there's ...

02/01/18 :- Life is unpredictable, treasure the moment! 生命無常，珍惜當下！ I have seen a similar photo being forwarded in social media sometime ago. Since then, it has made me think a lot about life and I have wanted to blog about it. However, time never seem enough for me to sit down and pen my thoughts down. So much has happened within a short span of time to people around me, I think it is high time I sit down to blog my feelings and thoughts. At the same time, hopefully it serves as a gentle reminder to the  readers of this blog. I bet most of us have always hold this thought in our minds, "I still have tons of time left, I can do this later (tomorrow, next week, month, year, etc)." It may be true today, tomorrow or next week. But, how long more can this sentence of "I still have time" stay true? Even if we say the average lifespan of a person is 75 years old. What makes us think we really can do so? Have we truly give a thought on this? When our mo...

30/10/17 :- Only seek advice from people you want to trade places with! 只向你想交換位置的人尋求建議！ How many times have we seek different kind of advice from people? Be honest, at least once in our lives, don't we? Be it studies, love, career, life, you name it. However, have we ever stopped to wonder, why are we seeking advice from the people we were seeking advice from? Because we have a close relationship with them? They were the only ones available at the time we needed advice? Or are they already at the position where we want to be at in the area you are seeking advice for? Think about this, if you want to score an A in Maths, would you ask a person who never even got a pass? If you want to go after a girl you have interest in, would you seek advice from someone who has never entered a relationship? If you needed advice on running your own business, why would you seek advice from a friend who has been a working employee his whole life? If you want to seek ...

12/02/17 :- 一件事物，多重含意。 One thing, multiple meanings. 對於你自己肉眼看見的事物，你能夠多確定自己了解背後的含意？ 你又怎麼知道你所見到的真的是對方想表達的？ 左邊的圖畫，一個簡單的手勢就可以代表數字 - 2，勝利，和平，甚至更多。 那麼右邊的圖畫呢？ 人為甚麼會流淚？ 看見並抱著自己的新生兒感動地落淚？ 對一個人生氣到極點留下的淚？ 或是流淚是因為難過？ 既然，一件眼睛看見的事物能夠表達那麼多，我們如何盡量確保自己是對的？ 你至少能夠做的就是問對方。 至於他們是否會對你說真話，並不是你能夠決定的。 但你至少嘗試過。 How sure are you to know the meaning of what you have seen with your eyes? What makes you think what you see is what the sender is trying to convey? In the picture, on the left, the simple sign can signifies number 2, victory, peace, and perhaps many more. How about the picture on the right? When do one tear? Tears of touch at the birth of your child and holding it in your arms? Angry tears when you were so mad at somebody? You got so upset to the point of tearing? Since there can be multiple meaning to the same thing we see, how can we make the effort to be 100% sure what is it? All you can at least do on your part is to ask the sender. Wheth...

12/01/17 :- Finish what you started! 有始有終！ Chapter 15 of  Why We Want You To Be Rich" by Donald J.Trump and Robert T.Kiyosaki - What did you learn from your mother? Finish what you started! In my younger days, I've started many things and gave up half way. If not for Mum, I would not be able to drive my car around now. I passed my TP on my 3rd try. I was ready to throw in the towel after I failed the 2nd time. I'm truly grateful for her encouragement back then. Ever since then, I always remember the feeling of passing my TP. Whenever I feel like giving up on things I've started, I remind myself how it would feel like if I do not give up and carry on trying till I succeed. I enjoy having success and even crave for it. Challenges are fun to me, breaking records get me going. However, since I try my best not to give up what I've started, I've also learnt to take on my tasks with caution. If I know or predict that I would n...

09/01/2017 :- Work hard first, enjoy life later!  先苦後甜！ Still at my book, "Why We Want You To Be Rich" by Donald J.Trump and Robert T.Kiyosaki. Chapter fourteen - What did you learn from your father? There is the your response portion at the end of the chapter, so here goes... My dad, he wasn't highly educated, thus he knows he needs to work harder than anyone else. Direct translation of the Chinese characters means take the bitterness first before tasting the sweetness, Dad illustrated that to us since young by offering sweet after we have to take our medicine when we fall sick. When I grow older and read a couple of self-motivation and self-improvement books, I realized Dad was actually practicing delay gratification, a skill mastered by many successful entrepreneurs. If only he knows how to turn his skills into a career by passing down to those workers he was in charge of and learnt to control his temper, he would probably own the best ho...

06/01/17 :- Being FAKE is scarier than being LAZY! 吃蛇並不怕人，雙頭蛇更駭人！ If you have ever been back-stabbed or betrayed, you would truly understand what this means and how it feels. After being in the society for a couple of year and having encounters with all sorts of angels and devils, you learnt to read people. However, as most of us are not face readers fortune tellers, sometimes, our judgement fails us. If someone cause harm or hurt you once or twice, something is wrong with them. If you allow them to harm or hurt you the third time, something is wrong with you. Don't be too trustful. People will change over the years and not necessary for the better. Never harbor evil thoughts towards others, but never let down your guard against them too. As we enter a new year, may my dear readers and I can grow a year wiser. Be more mindful of who you put your trust in. At the same time, please treasure the trust people have in you. It takes a lifetime to build trust, but a mo...

No dream is too small to strive for!  夢想無論大小，都值得去追求！ Since young, I have always had big dreams. It came as a surprise to me when I met a new friend the other day and she said, "Do you know why I didn't volunteer as a participant of your project? I have no dream." She may or may not be true. After that, she asked if I can share with her about my dreams. Thus, I showed her my dream board and roughly explained to her on how we can find our own dreams. Simple thing like not waking up to the sound of an alarm can be a dream too. When we talk about dreams, it is not necessary to be BIG dreams. As long as it's something you really want, it can be your dream. If you are like my friend, feeling lost or thinking that you do not have a dream, ask me out for coffee. I hope my humble sharing with you during our coffee chat can help you realized deep down, you actually do have a dream. It may be waiting silently for you to achieve it. 從小我就有著很大...

12/12/16 :-  Time is money! 時間就是金錢！ Time is money, many of us have heard that at least once in our lifetime. However, how much do we really understand this simple sentence? We need to really monetize it. What does that mean? Imagine if every 15mins of your time is worth $1,000, then would you be doing the thing you are doing now? Would you be hitting the snooze button for 15mins or wake up 15mins earlier to exercise for a healthier body? Would you be wasting half an hour to watch Korean drama or read a book to increase your knowledge? Would you spend an hour time working overtime to fulfill someone else dreams or would you leave the office and spend an hour learning how to build your own dream? So, the next time you want to do something, think again. If 15mins of my time is worth $1,000, would I want to do the next thing I've planned to do? 時間就是金錢，我們很多人這一輩子都至少有聽過一次。 但是，我們到底有多少真正了解這句話的意思？ 我們需要將它金錢化。 那又是甚麼意思呢？ 想像自己的每15分鐘相等於 $1,000，那麼你是...

28/11/16 :- You are never ready for that heartbreak date... 你永遠不會為那突然的心碎紀念日做好準備。。。 I am the old fashion man who is still used to having a physical organizer to mark all my dates, appointments and important stuff down. Heard from a speaker some time ago, "We marked all sort of dates on our organizer, but we can never predict that one day we would be marking down the death anniversary of someone we love." It pierces right through my heart. To make things worse, I was actually doing my 10km run in the stadium on that day. Tears were welling up in my eyes yet I have to force myself to finish the run. Why do I go back to our old house every year on this date? Though I know no matter how many years I go back, or what I do, it would never bring Grandma back to life; I cannot allow myself to miss this date. I know I can never repay the woman I love most in my life. Thus, I'm putting in double or even triple times more effort in building my business now to bring ...

22/11/16 :- 離家，是為了回家。。。 We left home seeking to return one day… 今天聽了夥伴的夢想板，感觸良多。 加上回想起上個星期六，帶了母親一同去參加女神，董宥均的地方研討會，眼淚不禁在眼眶打滾。 当下，就想到這句話，“離家，是為了回家。。。” 有多少親人朋友從馬來西亞來到新加坡工作，為的就是能賺多一點錢拿回家讓家人過好日子。 但是，甚麼是好日子？錢，要賺多少才夠？ 之前就看了一份報導，如果說你每三個月回家一次，假設你父母還有三十年與你一同共度，是否發現你只能多見他們120？ 那么，在假設每一次回家三天，其實你剩下與他們相處的日子只剩360天，比一年還少！ 我們很多人都很安逸，尤其是居住在新加坡的我們。 大多數人，從沒想過，有一天你的老闆可以毫無理由叫你馬上收拾走人。 試想，頓時你會變成怎麼樣？ 是否，已經做好準備，有了備胎？ 就算有的話，是否足夠？ 沒有人想要失敗，但是卻有很多人不願付出努力去爭取自己想要的。 沒有一件事是容易的，但是你真的要沒有嗎？ 如果，現在放棄了與家人的相處是為了將來所有的時間都能陪他們，你是否願意？ 但是，以這些放棄的時間來打工，加班，光做一些沒有產值的事，到頭來很抱歉，你或許與家人的時間已到此為止。 當你父母離開後，若你也有自己的家庭，依然重複你這幾年在做的事，你只會得到同樣的結果。 每天都走同樣的路，永遠不能帶你到不同的地方。 在你離開的時候，你的孩子也即將重複你的一生。。。 今天的你，是否在為將來奮鬥，所做的一切是否能為你帶來財富，時間自由，健康的體魄來陪伴你的家人？ 若還沒有，是時候好好深思這問題了。。。 我感恩自己已經做好準備並為母親與我未來的小家庭努力奮鬥。 家族翻身從小小的我開始。。。 Heard our partner shared her dream board today, emotions filled my heart. To add on, I have just brought my Mum along to attend my goddess, Stacy Tung's local seminar over the weekends, tears welled up i...

25/10/16 :- Do not let your convenience inconvenient others. 別讓自己的方便妨礙他人。 Everyone is in search of a convenient way to do things. I understand everyone has their preferred way of life as well. However, I believe that in living the way that you want, one should not cause unhappiness, discomfort or inconvenience to others around them. Age does not show your maturity. It is merely a number telling the world how long have you been living or wasting on Earth's resources. There would always be people around us who thinks the world evolved around them and do the slightest things without a little common sense. I hope my readers are none of theses selfish, foolish, childish people. 每個人都在尋找最方便的方式做事。 我也清楚地了解每個人都有自己選擇的生活方式。 但是，我也深信在過著你想要的生活的當兒，沒有人是應該把不快樂，不舒適或不方便帶給周遭的其他人。 年齡不代表你的成熟度。 那只不過意謂你利用或浪費了多少年的世界資源。 我們身邊難免有一些自我為中心的人，總是會毫無普通常識地進行一些簡單的事。 希望我的讀者都並非屬於那一群自私，愚蠢與幼稚的人們。

壓力是推動力！ Pressure motivates people! 阻力是爆發力! Resistance creates power! 19/08/16 :- 壓力是推動力， 阻力是爆發力! Pressure motivates people, resistance creates power! Do you work well under pressure? What do you do when you are faced with resistance? I used to be boiled down by pressure. In the past, with a little resistance, I tend to quit. However, due to experience and perhaps as age catches up, things are no longer the same for me now. Most importantly, I am currently hanging out with the right groups of positive people. With the awesome energy and right attitude, I move forward with direction. Though it may not be easy now, I know in time to come, all these is going to be worthwhile. What do you do when you get cold water splashed over you nearly every week or every now and then? Do you get discouraged or move on? You are the only person who can fight on for your own success. Similarly, you are the only one who can decide that you should fail. Do not let others de...

She has been the best supporter for 4 years. 她已當了我這 4 年來的最佳支持者。 31st July 2016 marks my 5th year in helping to raise funds and create awareness for the children at Children Cancer Foundation by taking part in Hair for Hope. However, my Mum has decided to join me for the first time! I'm truly so proud of her! Just last week, I had dinner and a heart to heart talk with my lyrics classmate, Christine aka Shang Rui. Few years back, she decided to come and work here in Singapore. Initially, her parents objected strongly. However, seeing the positive changes in her whole family ever since she came here, she never regretted making that decision. This was what she said, "I never expect the little decision which I made will affect my family members that much." She said something else which my idol, Stacy Tung has mentioned before too, "If by working harder, my parents/Mum can enjoy more and faster, I am willing to do just that." Coinciden...

因为广播是 PG， 所以部分内容在 YES 93.3FM 被念出时是被删掉的，这我能理解。 在此，一字不漏地与大家分享我的心情小抽屉。。。 嘿陈宁， 你好，今晚扭开收音机，听到的前面两首歌就是你播了，周兴哲 - 想回到那一天，还有 MP - 我还是爱着你。 听了之后，感触良多。 两个多星期前，突然想到了自己的初恋情人，莫名有种想法闪过，“不知道，她结婚了没？” 结果，就手痒，点击她的脸书。。。 那晚，6月1日。 刚过去的周末，5月28日，代号 - 36 结婚去了。 分手后的我们，依然保持联络。 多年后的我们，也曾经两个人一同出国。 初恋在 16 岁，一个我还不是很懂女生的年龄。 做了很多蠢事，让她不开心。 一气之下，在冷战后的一个星期，我们分了手。 幸运的是，年轻的我们，吵了不久后，和好了。 虽然没有复合，但我们继续维持良好的友情。 22岁那年，我要求复合。 她，凭着自己的某种理由，婉拒了我。 当时的她说，“现在的我，对你也有好感，但是 xxx ， 我们还是继续做朋友会好一点。。。" 也有用脸书与简讯继续联络，偶尔还是会约出去吃饭，看电影。 但是，我有个原则，她也晓得。 就是只要她一交了男朋友，我就会自动停止约她出去。 24岁那年，她结交了新男友。 从那时到现在 33岁的我们， 9年都不再约见面。 在街上，也只撞见她与她当时的男朋友一次。 但是，她在前方，并没有发觉我的存在。 曾经，我们在脸书上提到，如果任何一方先有喜讯，一定会通知彼此。 当我点击了她的脸书，看到了她的喜讯，在自己的脸书上分享了  田馥甄 - 这个人已经与我无关。 妹妹看到了后问我，”你难过吗？“ 我的回答是，“说真的，我是失望比难过多一点。不是说好还是朋友？ 不是说过会告诉对方吗？ 原来只是客套话。或许， 我们之间有过的回忆是她不想再记起的，我明白。但我不要求出席，只是没想过不被通知。” 为了她，我第一次把头发给剃光。 与她分手后的我，把右拳头的首两只关节骨以墙壁与灯柱打碎过，到了紧急部门包扎。 到现在，举重的东西时，还会有后遗症的痛。 也曾像看电视剧一样，对自己的肉体造成伤害。 还曾经像一个...